I didn’t write this, this was sent to me by Brendon Burchard.  But I thought I would post it for your enjoyment.

1. Be More Present 
 Jesse Jackson said that the youth of today need our presence, not our presents. I’ve learned the same from Denise about anyone we love. Being present means being in the moment with your loved ones, not distracted by to-dos, TVs or passing thoughts. I’ve learned that giving full attention to the moment and the one you’re with is the fastest way to ignite spontaneity, understanding, and attraction in a relationship.

To be present:

1. Focus your entire being on on your loved one,
2. Open yourself to their experience without judgment,
3. Exude appreciation and vibrancy, and
4. Don’t let distraction break the connection.

2. Be More Patient
Patience is the only path to understanding, even if it’s a more meandering path than we often wish it to be. Almost all conflict arises out of stress, and stress most often arises from hurry. “Hurry less, listen more” is great advice for curing conflict and building depth in relationships. Being patient enough to hear (and understand) someone’s viewpoint and feedback is a lost art.

Next time you’re with your loved one, show patience by:
1. Being fully present and not interrupting their statements.
2. Asking more questions.
3. Waiting longer after they speak to share your own perspective.
4. Asking yourself, “Does this person, who I love deeply, feel heard and appreciated in this moment?”

3. Be More Purposeful

Most people barrel through their relationships haphazardly – without much intention given to creating a remarkable relationship. Denise has taught me to focus on our relationship and think about building it as much as I do my business or any other area of our lives. She clearly takes the time to think about our relationship and how to make it, us, great. Creating great relationships and cultivating real love starts with deciding to do so. That’s what I mean by being purposeful. These days I often find myself thinking, “How can I bring even more joy and adoration to my loved ones?” I’m quite sure this question is inspired by my wife asking herself the same question. At the end of our lives, we will readily remember what kind of relationships we created. Did we live and love purposefully to create vibrant, joyous, and deeply caring and connected relationships? Or did we forget to consistently find and exude love in all our busyness?

I hope these quick lessons — be more present, patient and purposeful — serve you in cultivating loving, legendary relationships. With love, — Brendon Burchard Author, Life’s Golden Ticket